Jan, thank you so much for sharing your story and experiences. I’m so sorry to hear about the tragic loss of your fiance. That would be a lot of grief on its own, add to that the problems with family, it sounds absolutely heartbreaking. I’m glad my words resonated with you and allowed you to access an older heartbreak from your childhood. I’m learning that many painpoints in my life seem to be connected on a string. That’s why I often “overreact” because I’m feeling all the pain from earlier situations that I never processed. I understand the juxtaposition of wanting to be taken care of and also projecting strength at all times, it’s a hard place to be. All my best to you.